WEDDING CHECK LIST

STEP 1
Determine potential dates and times for your wedding.
Decide on the size, formality and setting of your wedding.
Create a wedding budget.
Meet with and book your Wedding Officiate.
Attend Pre Marriage Counseling. (Free for both Christian or Non-Christian)
Decide the faith of your marriage.
Apply for a Marriage License.
Reserve the locations for your wedding and reception.

Choose your wedding party and confirm the participants.
Choose your wedding rings.
Draw up an initial guest list.
Check marriage license requirement.
Order your invitations and any other stationery.

STEP 2
Order your wedding dress.
Book your photographer and/or videographer.
Locate florist and reserve your bouquet.
Plan your honeymoon.
Reserve the musicians and soloist for your ceremony.
Finalize your guest list.
Mail the invitations.

STEP 3
Decide on your wedding vows.
Confirm the wedding details with your Wedding Officiate.
Determine the order for the procession.
Have the programs printed.
Schedule final dress fitting.
Apply for a marriage license.
Confirm honeymoon reservations.



 

As a new Christian Pastor, my schedule is open. 
I should be able to perform your wedding at anytime even with a short notice.

I also provide counseling and prayer, and this is kept between you and I and there is no fee for any service.

It is an honor and a gift to co-create ceremonies with individuals from a multitude of faith and cultural traditions.

I specialize in working with couples to develop custom ceremonies that best reflects their Christian spirituality, heritage, and love story.

Planning the wedding you have always dreamed of should be the happiest time of your life.

I will do my part to make it as stress free as possible

I am a non-denominational, independent wedding officiate serving the state of South Carolina.

Large, small, contemporary, traditional, religious, inter-faith, intimate, fun, fancy, fairy-tale or frivolous,
so your wedding will truly be a unique event which is a perfect expression of your love.

It has been said that the greatest gift you can give someone is your undivided attention and that is what I will offer you.

I will sit down with you and we will discuss your vision of your ceremony and how to make it a reality.

I will help you with ideas for your ceremony, find resources, address your concerns and make planning your ceremony as stress-free as possible.

Your ceremony is the heart and soul of your wedding day. Letís work together to make it an event that you will remember with joy for the rest of your life.

I offer premarital counseling in a laid-back setting that focuses on offering couples a safe space to listen to each other
and to develop tools for effective communication and conflict resolution. For any marriage to last forever you must have the skills to work things out.

Premarital counseling is perhaps one of the most important items to deal with for a marriage.

 

Scripture describes a Christian marriage as a church ordinance, I believe Scripture implies that it is the role of Church leaders to oversee the wedding.

While Paul was instructing the church at Ephesus, he specifically touched on the believers role in a marriage. What he didn't say was, "Wives be subject to your husbands. Husbands love your wives as your own body, because who hates his own flesh? Love your wife as yourself and wives respect your husband." Had he said only that, he would have been talking about any marriage, not just a Christian marriage, but any marriage. Ephesians Ch.5 would have been the foundation for every secular "Having a full marriage" book ever written. 

Instead Paul wrote: (Eph. 5:22-33) Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body. FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH. This mystery is great; but I am speaking with reference to Christ and the church. Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband. 

This is what sets the Christian marriage apart from a marriage between unbelievers. Marriage between Christians is a function of our faith and a sacred reflection of the beautiful mystery that is the union between Christ and His bride, the church. In a Christian marriage, the main function of the husband is to love his wife in such a sacrificial way (to put her needs before his) that he leads her to purity because "Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her...having no spot or wrinkle... that she would be holy and blameless" And the function of the wife is to be subject to the husband because "...the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything."

Furthermore, Paul concerns himself with the legalities of Christian marriages in 1 Corinthians 7 and the judgment of immorality in the church in in 1 Corinthians 5, yet distances the church from judgment of those outside the church in 1 Corinthians 5:12-13 For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Do you not judge those who are within the church? But those who are outside, God judges The writer of Hebrews admonishes believers that Marriage is to be held in honour among all, and Paul includes marriage to one woman as a qualifier for church leadership in 1 Timothy 3.

So, even though marriage was established by God for all, it has a special meaning to believers. The same was/is true for Jewish believers in that the marriage relationship is a type of God's relationship with Israel before the coming of the Messiah. This special importance of marriage is not shared by unbelievers. This is why the wedding becomes a function of the pastor, as the leader of the congregation, being responsible for "his flock" who is in turn responsible for accountability, judgment, and discipline of it's members that violate the covenant of marriage. However, neither the minister, nor the congregation, are responsible for accountability, judgment, or discipline of unbelievers violating the marriage covenant. Not being under grace, their judgment is wholly God's responsibility. By extension, the minister has no business conducting a wedding for unbelievers, as that marriage has no business in the church. (As an applicable side note, even though marriage is done by all, a "moral" marriage between unbelievers is good for society, but not pleasing to God [Romans 8:5-8]).

As for functioning as an agent of the state... weddings were conducted long before they were licensed by the state. The minister performs this function for believers as a matter of convenience, effectively killing two birds with one stone. Bird one being officiating over the covenant vows of the couple, bird two being officiating over the contract with the state. If the minister did not have the authority from the state, weddings would still be conducted in a church then a license acquired from the state signed by a Justice of Peace.