WEDDING CHECK LIST
Determine potential dates and times for your
Decide on the size, formality and setting of
Create a wedding budget.
Meet with and book your Wedding Officiate.
Attend Pre Marriage Counseling. (Free for both
Christian or Non-Christian)
Decide the faith of your marriage.
Apply for a Marriage License.
Reserve the locations for your wedding and
Choose your wedding party and confirm the
Choose your wedding rings.
Draw up an initial guest list.
Check marriage license requirement.
Order your invitations and any other stationery.
Order your wedding dress.
Book your photographer and/or videographer.
Locate florist and reserve your bouquet.
Plan your honeymoon.
Reserve the musicians and soloist for your
Finalize your guest list.
Mail the invitations.
Decide on your wedding vows.
Confirm the wedding details with your Wedding
Determine the order for the procession.
Have the programs printed.
Schedule final dress fitting.
Apply for a marriage license.
Confirm honeymoon reservations.
As a new Christian Pastor, my schedule is open.
I should be able to perform your wedding at
anytime even with a short notice.
I also provide counseling and prayer, and
this is kept between you and I and there is no
fee for any service.
It is an honor and a gift to co-create
ceremonies with individuals from a multitude of
faith and cultural traditions.
I specialize in working with couples to develop
custom ceremonies that best reflects their
Christian spirituality, heritage, and love story.
Planning the wedding you have always dreamed of
should be the happiest time of your life.
I will do my part to make it as stress free
I am a non-denominational, independent wedding
officiate serving the state of South Carolina.
Large, small, contemporary, traditional,
intimate, fun, fancy,
fairy-tale or frivolous,
so your wedding will truly be a unique event
which is a perfect expression of your love.
It has been said that the greatest gift you can
give someone is your undivided attention and
that is what I will offer you.
I will sit down with you and we will discuss
your vision of your ceremony and how to make
it a reality.
I will help you with ideas for your ceremony,
find resources, address your concerns and make
planning your ceremony as stress-free as
Your ceremony is the heart and soul of your
wedding day. Letís work together to make it an
event that you will remember with joy for the
rest of your life.
I offer premarital counseling in a laid-back
setting that focuses on offering couples a safe
space to listen to each other
and to develop tools for effective communication
and conflict resolution. For any marriage to
last forever you must have the skills to work
Premarital counseling is perhaps one of the most
important items to deal with for a marriage.
Scripture describes a Christian marriage as a
church ordinance, I believe Scripture implies that
it is the role of Church leaders to oversee the
While Paul was instructing the church at
Ephesus, he specifically touched on the
believers role in a marriage. What he didn't say
was, "Wives be subject to your husbands.
Husbands love your wives as your own body,
because who hates his own flesh? Love your wife
as yourself and wives respect your husband." Had
he said only that, he would have been talking
about any marriage, not just a Christian
marriage, but any marriage. Ephesians Ch.5 would
have been the foundation for every secular
"Having a full marriage" book ever written.
Instead Paul wrote: (Eph. 5:22-33) Wives,
be subject to your own husbands, as
to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the
wife, as Christ also is the head of the church,
He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as
the church is subject to Christ, so also the
wives ought to be to their husbands in
love your wives, just
as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself
up for her, so that He might sanctify her,
having cleansed her by the washing of water with
the word, that He might present to Himself the
church in all her glory, having no spot or
wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be
holy and blameless. So
husbands ought also to love their own wives as
their own bodies. He who loves his own wife
loves himself; for no one ever hated his own
flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just
as Christ also does the church, because we are
members of His body. FOR THIS REASON A MAN SHALL
LEAVE HIS FATHER AND MOTHER AND SHALL BE JOINED
TO HIS WIFE, AND THE TWO SHALL BECOME ONE FLESH.
This mystery is great; but I am speaking with
reference to Christ and the church.
Nevertheless, each individual among you also is
to love his own wife even as himself, and the
wife must see to it that she respects her
This is what sets the Christian marriage apart
from a marriage between unbelievers. Marriage
between Christians is a function of our faith
and a sacred reflection of the beautiful mystery
that is the union between Christ and His bride,
the church. In a Christian marriage, the main
function of the husband is to love his wife in
such a sacrificial way (to put her needs before
his) that he leads her to purity because
"Christ also loved the church and gave Himself
up for her, so that He might sanctify
her...having no spot or wrinkle... that she
would be holy and blameless" And
the function of the wife is to be subject to the
husband because "...the
church is subject to Christ, so also the wives
ought to be to their husbands in everything."
Furthermore, Paul concerns himself with the
legalities of Christian marriages in 1
Corinthians 7 and the judgment of immorality in
the church in in 1 Corinthians 5, yet distances
the church from judgment of those outside the
church in 1 Corinthians 5:12-13 For
what have I to do with judging outsiders? Do you
not judge those who are within the church? But
those who are outside, God judges The
writer of Hebrews admonishes believers that Marriage
is to be held in honour among all,
and Paul includes marriage to one woman as a
qualifier for church leadership in 1 Timothy 3.
So, even though marriage was established by God
for all, it has a special meaning to believers.
The same was/is true for Jewish believers in
that the marriage relationship is a type of
God's relationship with Israel before the coming
of the Messiah. This special importance of
marriage is not shared
by unbelievers. This is why the wedding becomes
a function of the pastor, as the leader of the
congregation, being responsible for "his flock"
who is in turn responsible for accountability,
judgment, and discipline of it's members that
violate the covenant of marriage. However,
neither the minister, nor the congregation, are
responsible for accountability, judgment, or
discipline of unbelievers violating the marriage
covenant. Not being under grace, their judgment
is wholly God's responsibility. By extension,
the minister has no business conducting a
wedding for unbelievers, as that marriage has no
business in the church. (As an applicable side
note, even though marriage is done by all, a
"moral" marriage between unbelievers is good for
society, but not pleasing to God [Romans
As for functioning as an agent of the state...
weddings were conducted long before they were
licensed by the state. The minister performs
this function for believers as a matter of
convenience, effectively killing two birds with
one stone. Bird one being officiating over the
covenant vows of the couple, bird two being
officiating over the contract with the state. If
the minister did not have the authority from the
state, weddings would still be conducted in a
church then a license acquired from the state
signed by a Justice of Peace.