Research and studies are good to teach us things
that we do not know about. I would like to share something that is
not a study, research or hearsay, but something I know to be fact,
because it is my life.
God presented me with a
woman who lived several hundred miles from me. We had lots of
conversations over many months, however we never saw a picture of each
other. I had to travel to Boston to meet her. A year later
we got married. Aside from my salvation, it was the best day of my
life. We co managed a retail store together for a couple years
before i could convince her to move to South Carolina with me.
Every day was not perfect, we had many of the same complications as
everyone else. But she was always fantastic to me, she has always
been the best part of my day and always will be. I wake up many
nights and watch her sleep. She tells me always how great I am,
and how lucky she is. But it is not luck. . . I have been blessed
beyond words to have her in my life. It is like the birth of a
child. so precious, the miracle of life.
This is how I feel with her everyday. My
disappointment is any time I can not make her happy, like when she
struggled with breast cancer. It was hard dealing with her cancer,
however God did a perfect job of carrying us both through it. I became a
Pastor July of 2011. I have spoken with many Pastors who speak
highly of their wife. I have been told a Pastor needs a very
supportive wife, so again, I am blessed for I have the wife who is
perfect for me. My wife and I like to attend the weddings
together. It is our prayer that other couples will be as happy as
us with a marriage that will last them forever.
We have a great marriage, however that does not mean
we agree on everything. My wife is a very complex person, and me.
. . I am the simple guy.
My wife keeps things private, and I share everything.
Many people get excited to see a famous movie star, or
singer. . .
For me, my wife is my Movie Star!
So I know. When you center your marriage around
He will Bless your marriage.
God meant for us to enjoy
the marvelous beauty and material resources of our world. But Jesus wanted
to make clear that we can’t truly delight in possessions if they consume us
while we are consuming them.
When Jesus made his
pilgrimage to the cross, his disciples accompanied him to Jerusalem. True,
they would all have their moments of quivering fright that sent them
scrambling into hiding, yet they joined him as best they could. And
eventually they all suffered great loss as they took up their crosses and
The greatest thing about
courtship and marriage is that we don’t have to go through life alone. We
share our journey with another. We reaffirm the faith and values we have
spoken about in the easy times so that when we have to slog through the
swamp of despair or navigate the hard places of loss, we can encourage each
other to put our feet in appropriate places and keep our eyes trained on our
Savior, Jesus Christ. Together we can follow him.
What are our 20-year goals?
In what ways could those goals nurture or destroy our relationship? How
would Jesus nudge us to change or clarify our plans?
What is our net worth? How
do we measure it? What questions can we ask to help us think through the
true value of our possessions?
What have we accumulated as
a couple that we will pass on to our children? How might those things be a
blessing? A hardship?